Paris Hilton recently did a documentary on her YouTube channel about the abuse she suffered while at Provo Canyon School. A really striking part of it was when she took the camera crew up to her luxurious closet. It featured rows upon rows of Louboutins and more handbags than Rodeo Drive could shake a stick at.
That’s something every girl dreams of, right?
Yet, Paris openly confessed the stuff meant nothing to her. It was merely her unsuccessful attempt at trying to fill the void cause by the trauma of being kidnapped in the middle of the night on the orders of her parents, held in solitary confinement and then physically beaten by her teachers. She cringed when thinking about how much money she had wasted on it all. Not least because none of her purchases actually made her feel better, nor did it stop her complex PTSD.
‘You’ll Never See A U-Haul Behind A Hearse’ – Denzel Washington
The stark reality of possessions is that you can’t take them with you once you’re gone. This has become ever more apparent to me, as several of my elderly neighbours have sadly died recently. A few months back, a family bought the house that belonged to an elderly couple a few doors down.
Even their washing up bowl ended up in the large skip that was filled to the brim with every nick and nack they had accumulated over their long marriage. This included their treasured family photographs that none of their children apparently wanted.
It’s a tough one because certain items carry huge sentimental value for us all. So where do you draw the line? A relative presented with one of my late grandmother’s china sets a few weeks back. She died 7 years ago! In many ways, I feel I should keep it because it belonged to my nan. But if I saw it on a shelf in a shop, I’d never consider buying it because it’s not my taste. I hope she can’t hear me up there!
Instead, I tend to stick to the same mug my brother got me from San Francisco. It holds way more tea than the average mug you’d find in Britain, hence I’ll never part with it.
Minimalism Starts With A Clear Out
I’ve been making a conscious effort to declutter our home recently. I wondered if I had gone too far when during a PT session, I was asked if we only just moved in. My office where I also exercise consists of my desk, a computer, notebooks, my exercise mat and my printer. There are no ornaments, in fact, there aren’t even any pictures on the wall! I personally love this clean and stripped back look, but I appreciate it isn’t for everyone.
The simple fact is having too much stuff stressful and a waste of money. I think back to being a student going round department stores buying tat (no ‘love laugh live’ signs thank you very much) and I have serious regrets. No wonder I’d get to the end of term and have to ring up my mum to borrow a tenner! Where is this stuff now? Binned or charity shopped. Urgh.
Minimalism Doesn’t Mean Minimal Personality
While I’m not saying you should throw out everything you own, removing what you don’t actually use is extremely cathartic. Minimalism helps to streamline your focus and from a health perspective, minimises dust and keeps the air fresh. Most of all, it’s much easier to keep your home clean and tidy when there’s less stuff to deal with.
So take a look around and if your spaces are looking a little cluttered, it might just be time for that clear out you’ve been putting off for far too long. You’ll feel much better for it, I promise!